Am I being too sensitive about this?

[Deanna]

So girls tell me how you would feel if this happened to you-So one night in the city,when it was pouring rain,me,my bf,my really good friend(or supposed to be a good friend at least)and her bf decided to go out,etc. We cabbed it there ,they came out from the burbs. Mind you its pouring rain. So bar closes lights are turning on and everyone is getting kicked out. I felt as one of her good freinds if not best friends, she would offer us a ride back which would have been totally on her way ho me anyways. She doesn't offer and so I ask her instead because I figure I should not be embarassed to ask her she is my really good friend(standing in her wedding even).

She tells me that they were going to stay longer but,it did not make sense because the lights were turning on and people were getting kicked out? So whatever, we cabbed it after that.

The next day she says she should have given us a ride home and they actually left 15 min after we did lol? It was pointed out to me that yea we took a cab ho me and had a means to getting home but if this was such a "true friend" and it was on her way back to the burbs(I mean it was literally by the highway,real easy) it should not have been a problem for her to given us a ride home. To stay longer should not have been an excuse because it was not any longer than after we left.

Do I feel I have a right to be disappointed in her? How would you feel if this was you and one of your really good friends( I am not talking about just some acquaintence that you hang out with once in a while either)?

[Chief Guide: Blagica]

I have a feeling she maybe wasn't thinking? They may have wanted to go some place ELSE w/o you guys and felt weird saying that...so instead she said she wanted to 'stay longer'.

Either way, if you are close, yes, talk bout it. My best friend, who was my maid of honor in the wedding, rarely rarely fight because all feelings, no matter how good or bad is in the open.

[Carolyn Tang]

You know, i've been in situations like that before too, my guess is she totally spaced...she did offer some sort of apology the next day. And, if you're in her wedding, you know she considers you a "true friend." She wants to see your face in all her wedding pictures years and years and years from now...otherwise, she wouldn't have asked you to stand, right? So I'd definitely chalk it up to one too many cosmos. ;) We all space out on our friends every now and then, but hey, it doesn't mean we love them any less, eh?

Speaking of which, what a crummy day outside, when's this rain gonna go away?

[Deanna]

There was really no where to go and if there was she should have told us? Unless it was somewhere to eat because it was pretty late. She said that she left 15 min after we did. She then later on said that if it was just me and not my bf she would have given me a ride home which I am wondering now if the reason is because she doesn't like my bf? I was like oooooook?

Well, it depends on the whole standing in the wedding thing-some girls just need space fillers,I know that sounds harsh but it happens. My bf felt that since we came together we should have left together and to leave us in the rain was not right. I am kinda flip floppy on the whole situation.

I had to write off some girl I used to hang out with awhile ago because I realized they were controlling and when I started to stand up for myself and stay silent as I did,they just became downright mean and showed their true colors,that has also happened to me.

I don't know, the fact that she then said after she would have given me a ride if I was by myself was weird,I feel no matter who is with me even if it was someone they absolutely hate,should be respectful and give them a ride because she is my friend and should just respect whoever I am with? I mean we came together and we can't seperate nor would we just because you hate who I brought?